I am so glad you are considering support for your intimate relationship! Couples commonly go through periods of distress. This is a normal part of romantic commitment. It takes wisdom and courage to stand up for your relationship and find support for learning to love well.
Falling in love is so easy. All we have to do is show up and the chemistry takes its course. The feelings in this phase of intimate relationship are so strong, so compelling it feels like they should just carry us through any roadblocks or difficulties in relating for the rest of our lives.
The truth is that when we fall in love we enter into a primal realm, where desires, needs, and the imperative of close human contact conspire to make our significant other so, well, significant! Somehow, our partner impacts us in a way others do not. With our partner, we experience deep love as well as deeply painful conflict, often in unequal parts, precisely because s/he is so important to us. Did I mention this is normal?
Human beings are hard-wired to attach to each other. That attachment feels warm and delicious when it is working well and just plain gut-wrenching when it isn’t.
My work with you as a couple is to help you understand what is going on underneath the surface in times of painful disconnection and conflict and how to find your way back to each other. Through a process of inquiry and deep listening, I help each of you take responsibility for your own needs, hurts, wants and desires and guide you to share them with your partner. The result is that we create a safe place to reveal the truth of what is happening in your relationship and work together to open up new pathways of loving connection.
Oh, and remember that falling in love part I mentioned earlier? That love is the glue that makes this kind of healing work possible.
Sessions are typically 75 min. Please see the Rates page for pricing information.